Cranberry Chocolate Coconut Granola Bar Recipe

I spent months and months tinkering with various granola bar recipes, only to find many of them had a ton of honey, or fell apart, or were too crunchy.  Finally, I ended up updating my original granola bar recipe with more readily available ingredients and this is what resulted!  Tropical Traditions posted my recipe on their blog, and you can find it here.  (Note:  The recipe shows maple syrup, but I prefer to use agave nectar instead.  Same amount.)  These are ridiculously easy to make, yield a 9x13 pan full and are really, really yummy.  Plus, you can add or subtract ingredients according to your preferences, dietary restrictions or what you have on hand.  Hope you enjoy them!

Tales From a Stay-At-Home Mom: "I'm Watching You!"

I was in the bathroom with my two daughters, and we were "doing nails".  I finished my younger daughter's toes, and then went to pick up the bottle of hot pink nail polish that my older daughter had picked out for her fingers.  Of course, she hadn't told me that she had already unscrewed the cap, so when I picked it up by the lid, the bottle went crashing to the floor and hot pink nail polish went flying (and I mean flying) all over the linoleum tile and cabinets (I'm still thanking God it missed my new white rugs.  White?  Really?? What was I thinking??).  It was the end of a very long day, and that was the last straw.  I started to lose it.  At that moment, when every curse word known to man was running through my mind and I started scolding my daughter for unscrewing the cap, my two-year-old said, "I'M WATCHING YOU!".  She said it in a sing-song voice that was reminiscent of something you would see in a Stephen King movie, but I don't think that's what stopped me dead in my tracks:  It was the fact that, in that instant, I realized that she was watching ME.  She was watching MY reaction in that situation.  In fact, she was watching every one of my reactions in every situation throughout every day.  The weight of the thought certainly took the wind out of my sails.

I still have no idea why she said it, or what she even meant by the comment.  I half want to think it was the Holy Spirit warning me through her - because not only was she watching my every move, but so was God.  My reaction to the nail polish debacle was not a graceful one, as it should have been.  My immediate thought was not to extend mercy; it was to punish.  The nail polish was only another mess in the string of messes that I clean up on any given day, and nothing was stained permanently, so I really didn't have anything to be upset about.  Just the fact that I had to clean up another mess when I had a whole laundry list of other things to do to get everyone ready for bed was what upset me.  I could make excuses all day long to justify my reaction in this situation, (or any similar situation, for that matter,) but it doesn't change the fact that I was wrong.  I reacted incorrectly, and my daughter called me out on it.  My two-year-old knew my response was not what it should have been, because I take time to try and correct her behaviour when it is out of line.  Obviously, she was returning the favor!

As mothers, we don't only teach our children their ABC's, how to have good manners, and how to tie their shoes or clean up after themselves.  We teach them - by our own actions and reactions - how to act and react to stressful, upsetting, frustrating situations.  For example, if I yell and scold and punish every time someone makes a mess or breaks something, I'm going to send the message to my kids that that's the normal way to respond to a mess or a broken item.  In that case, I would also be sending the message that the floor or broken object is more important to me than the person who made the mess or caused the breakage in the first place.  I would be placing undue significance on objects rather than my precious children, and years of that kind of behavior could certainly have a negative impact on their fragile psyches.  Now, don't get me wrong, obviously there are times when scolding or punishment might absolutely be necessary, but nail polish on the floor when it wasn't even her fault in the first place?  Ah, no.  My linoleum tile and cabinets are not worth wounding my little girl's spirit.  Join with me this week after Mother's Day in making an effort to be aware of the words you are speaking to your kids each day and the tones you are using when you speak them.  Let us be women who speak life - who speak with wisdom and have faithful instruction on our tongues (Proverbs 31:26, paraphrased).

Yummy Chocolate-Cinnamon Scones...Buttermilk Not Necessary!

I needed a scone recipe that didn't require buttermilk.  Of course, I couldn't find one that looked good, so I did a little searching and discovered that one cup regular milk mixed with one tablespoon of white vinegar would do the trick instead.  And it did!  These scones have a great texture and flavor.  Enjoy with a nice cup of tea and a good episode of Downton Abbey :)

Yummy Chocolate-Cinnamon Scones

2 cups unbleached, all-purpose flour (or half whole-wheat flour and half unbleached flour)
1 Tbs baking powder
3 Tbs sugar
1 tsp cinnamon
5 Tbs cold butter
1/2 cup miniature semi-sweet chocolate chips
1 cup milk mixed with 1 Tbs white vinegar (let stand 5 to 10 minutes)

Topping:
1 Tbs milk
1/4 cup sugar
1 to 2 tsp cinnamon

Directions:

Preheat oven to 425 degrees Fahrenheit.  Mix together the flour, baking powder, sugar and cinnamon.  Cut in the butter using a pastry blender or fork.  Stir in the chocolate chips and then fold in the milk.  Mix until the dough forms, but don't over mix.  Transfer the dough to a floured surface and knead into a ball.  Pat or roll the dough into a circle and cut it into triangles (or cut circles or another shape using a large cookie or biscuit cutter).  Place scones on a cookie sheet lined with parchment paper.  Brush each scone with milk and then sprinkle the cinnamon and sugar topping mixture over each one.  Bake for 10 to 15 minutes, or until the scones are lightly browned.

Tales From a Stay-At-Home Mom: Why So Defensive, Mommas??

I recently had a conversation with a Working Mom that made me throw back to my days of working full-time outside the home.  I remembered trying to juggle domestic responsibilities along with the guilt of having an infant (and then toddler) in day care.   I pumped in the bathroom at work for 6 months, since that was the only room with a lock on the door.  I often went well over the speed limit to pick my daughter up on time.  I let her fall asleep on the couch so I could spend more time with her.  I beat myself up every morning when I dropped her off and she cried woefully as I left, and then I stood outside the door, waiting for her to calm down before going to work.  (Most mornings, I teared up when I got to my car.)  I crunched numbers every week, created elaborate plans, tried to figure out ways to be able to quit work.  I also envied the Stay-At-Home Moms that I knew, and wondered why it couldn't be me.   I wasn't exactly defensive about my role as a Working Mom, since I felt compelled to stay home and couldn't, but anytime anyone made a comment that was even remotely negative about my child being in day care, I suddenly turned into a lion, claws drawn, ready to pounce.

Why was I so defensive?

I prayed for almost 3 years, and then the Lord opened all the right doors.  I couldn't understand His timing, but He obviously had (and has) a plan.   As a result, I've been the Stay-At-Home Mom that I envied ever since my youngest daughter was born.  Now, my guilt centers on whether or not I'm ruining my children, since I'm the ever-present influence in their lives!  That's a blog for another day, however.  Back to my recent conversation with Working Mom:  When faced with her own question of whether she should quit work to stay at home or not, she proceeded to become rather defensive of the fact that she enjoyed working and preferred to continue doing so. 

Why was she so defensive?

I spent many hours pondering these questions, only to recollect something that I once read (I don't remember where):  The defense mechanisms we use to protect ourselves usually provide clues to our own uncertainties or fears.  My walls went up and my claws came out when others made comments about my child being in a day care.  Why?  Because I was uncertain that that was an optimal place for her to be, and I actually feared that it was harming her in some way (even though there were absolutely no signs of that, other than the usual illnesses associated with being in a day care facility).  The Working Mom I was talking to became defensive of the fact that she enjoyed her work - perhaps because of guilt that may have been imposed on her by an individual or a media outlet in the past.  Or, perhaps she feared that her enjoyment of work outside the home was in direct conflict with her nurturing instincts, and somehow made her a "bad" mother.

We get defensive when faced with our fears and uncertainties; when we are challenged to believe what very well could be an untruth about ourselves or our lives.  These fears are not from God (who is love):  "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love" (1 John 4:18).  What we need to remember is that we're all in this together!  It's not Working Mom versus Stay-At-Home Mom.  We're ALL moms that need to support one another in the choices we have made, and we need to help guide one another if it becomes obvious that we are choosing the wrong vocation, whatever that may be (at home or outside the home).  I am not better than you because I stay home with my kids.  You are not better than me because you work to help provide monetarily for yours.  God has different plans for each one of us, and we need to keep that in mind when our human natures drive us to place another mom under judgement for her vocation.

To continue in 1 John 4:19-21:  "We love because he first loved us.  Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.   And he has given us this command: Anyone who loves God must also love their brother and sister."  Let us keep this in mind as we strive to encourage one another along the journeys that God has planned for us, whether working at home or outside of it!

Fruit Kabobs With Sweet Cream Cheese Dip

I made these for a Super Bowl party and they were gone in a matter of minutes - and my kids (even my picky fruit eater) were ecstatic about them.  Why is food always better on a stick?!  Well, for whatever reason, it is.  This is a quick, easy, healthy potluck or party recipe.  I highly recommend the dip, but it's not necessary.  Fruit alone on a stick is good enough!

FRUIT KABOBS

1 lb. red seedless grapes
4 Mandarin oranges (or Clementines)
3 to 4 medium apples
2 large bananas
1 package of strawberries

Directions:  Wash and slice the apples, then soak them in ginger ale (yes, ginger ale - it works!) for 5 to 10 minutes and set aside.  Slice and toss the bananas with lemon juice.  Set aside.  Wash the grapes and strawberries, and slice the strawberries in half lengthwise.  Peel and separate the oranges.  Take the skewers and cut them in half (I used very sharp kitchen scissors, but a sharp chef's knife would work as well).  Thread the fruit onto the skewers, leaving about 1/2-inch on both ends so that they can be picked up.  Refrigerate until serving.  (*NOTE:  I made these about 2 hours ahead of time, and the apples and bananas did not change color!*)  This recipe makes approximately 20 skewers.

SWEET CREAM CHEESE DIP

1 package cream cheese (8 oz.)
1/2 cup brown sugar (*I cut this down to about 1/4 cup)
1 tsp vanilla
2 T sour cream

Place cream cheese in a microwave-safe bowl and microwave for about 20 seconds. Combine the remaining ingredients and mix well with a spoon or hand mixer.  Serve immediately or refrigerate until serving.

Flavored Coffee -What's In It & How to Make Your Own (Minus the Mystery Ingredients)

 



If you are a coffee-holic like myself, then you have probably wondered what exactly flavors your creme-brulee, chocolate-raspberry and "Jaimaican Me Crazy" brews.  The coffee packages generally don't specify the ingredients used to flavor the coffee (they just say "coffee and natural and artificial flavors"), which is rather frightening, in my opinion.  So, I decided to do a little research.    I know it's long, but it's worth the read.  According to this website,

"Flavoring oils are combinations of natural and synthetic flavor chemicals which are compounded by professional flavor chemists. Natural oils used in flavored coffees are extracted from a variety of sources, such as vanilla beans, cocoa beans, and various nuts and berries. Cinnamon, clove, and chicory are also used in a variety of coffee flavors. Synthetic flavor agents are chemicals which are manufactured on a commercial basis. For example, a nutty, woody, musty flavor can be produced with 2, 4-Dimethyl-5-acetylthiazole. Similarly, 2,5-Dimethylpyrazine is used to add an earthy, almost peanuty or potato-like flavor. Flavor chemists blend many such oils to achieve specific flavor combinations. While other food flavors may be composed of nine or 10 ingredients, coffee flavors may require up to 80 different compounds to achieve subtle flavors. Virtually any taste can be reproduced. Marketers have found that consumers prefer coffee flavors with sweet creamy notes. The ideal flavor should mask some of the harsh notes of the coffee yet not interfere with its aromatic characteristics.

The pure flavor compounds described above are highly concentrated and must be diluted in a solvent to allow the blending of multiple oils and easy application to the beans. Common solvents include water, alcohol, propylene glycol, and fractionated vegetable oils. These solvents are generally volatile chemicals that are removed from the beans by drying. Older solvent system technology produced beans which dried up and lost flavor. Current technology uses more stable solvents which leave the beans with a glossy sheen and longer lasting flavor.

The flavor chemicals and the solvents used in flavors must not only be approved for use in foods, but they must also not adversely react with the packaging material and the processing equipment with which they come into contact. Furthermore, they must meet the desired cost constraints."

A couple of things bother me about this description of coffee flavoring oils.  For starters, some coffees contain 80 different flavoring compounds!  Yuck!  In addition, according to ChemSpider, a chemical database,  2, 4-Dimethyl-5-acetylthiazole is a synthetic flavorant that causes skin, eye and lung irritation upon contact (so what exactly does it do to us when it's ingested?).  Secondly, according to ChemSpider, 2,5-Dimethylpyrazine in its chemical state carries an irreversible damage risk to the eyes, skin and lungs, is a skin and eye irritant, and is harmful if swallowed (!).  Now, I am not a chemist and I certainly hope that in their flavorant states these chemicals are in fact edible, but the facts do freak me out a bit. (As do the solvents used in the coffee flavoring process.)  That being said, I started experimenting with ways to flavor my own coffee.  Below you will find a very easy (and very yummy) way to flavor your own coffee, minus the mystery ingredients!  I hope you enjoy your chemical-free, flavored java fix :)

Easy DIY Flavored Coffee Recipe

*For a 10-cup pot of coffee, place 1/2 to 1 tsp (or more, according to your preferences) of the desired spice on top of the grounds PRIOR TO brewing.
*Brew and enjoy!
*Spices that I use frequently are pumpkin pie spice and cinnamon.  I have also used cocoa powder, or a dash of peppermint extract or vanilla extract on top of the grounds prior to brewing very successfully. 

Classic Lady Grantham Quotes (Because We All Need A Good Laugh!)

She's witty, she's sarcastic, she's prejudiced against Americans and she's amazing - easily my favorite Downton Abbey character.  Lady Grantham also reminds me of my late, Great Aunt "C" (short for Celia) - they share the same "old lady smirk", as I like to call it, and my Aunt used to have zingers very comparable to Lady Grantham's.  Since it's Friday and I certainly need a laugh after a stressful week of moving- and property management-related activities, I thought a compilation of Lady Grantham quotes was in order.  I will add to the list as the season progresses :)  Enjoy a good lol for me!

1.)

Lady Grantham: "I think it's a ridiculous idea."
Lady Sybil: "Why?"
Lady Grantham: "Because this is a house, not a hospital."
Lady Mary: "Granny, a convalescent home is where people rest and recuperate."
Lady Grantham: "But if there are relapses. What then? Amputation in the dining room? Resuscitation in the pantry?"

2.)

Sir Richard Carlisle:  "I'm leaving the morning Lady Grantham, I doubt we'll meet again."

Lady Grantham:  "Do you promise?" 3.) Lady Grantham:  "Oh my dears. Is it really true? I can't believe it. Last night he looked so well. Of course it *would* happen to a foreigner.  It's typical." Lady Mary:  "Don't be ridiculous." Lady Grantham:  "I'm not being ridiculous. No Englishman would *dream* of dying in someone else's house - especially somebody they didn't even know." 4.) Lady Grantham:  "What is a weekEND?" 5.) Lady Grantham:  "Your turn will come." Lady Edith:  "Will it? Or am I to be the maiden aunt? Isn't this what they do? Arrange presents for their prettier relations?" Lady Grantham:  "Don't be defeatist dear, it's terribly middle class." 6.) Lady Grantham: "Good heavens, what am I sitting on?" Matthew:  "A swivel... chair."  Lady Grantham:  "Oh, another modern brainwave?"  Matthew:  "Not very modern; they were invented by Thomas Jefferson."  Lady Grantham:  "Why does every day involve a fight with an American?"  7.) Lady Grantham:  [to Mrs. Crawley when they realize Mary will not take Matthew despite the fact that he remains the heir to the title and estate] "Your quarrel is with my daughter, Rosamund, and not with me. So put that in your pipe and smoke it."  8.) Lady Sybil: "No one ever learned anything from a governess except for French, and how to curtsy."  Lady Grantham:  "What more do you need?" 9.) Lady Grantham:  “First electricity, now telephones. Sometimes I feel as if I’m living in an H.G. Wells novel.” 10.) Lady Grantham:  “I knew this family was approaching disillusion, I wasn’t aware that illusion was already upon us.” 11.) Lady Grantham: “We’ll have to take her abroad, in these moments you can usually find an Italian who’s not too picky.” 12.) Lady Grantham:  “Alas, I am beyond impropriety”